No, that isn't my playroom... but it could be any given day.
What is the difference from last week until now?
How I react to it.
Remember this post that I wrote about a few days ago?
How I noticed that I am not being the calm peaceful parent that I want to be
because I am yelling all the time...
Well I took it to heart and can honestly say that
I wish everyone would read it and realize what truth there is written there.
Since reading that post by my fellow mommy and homeschooler
my days are 100% smoother,
my girls actually listen to my words instead of tuning me out,
the lying has stopped,
and there is a "niceness" to everyone's demeanor.
No, it isn't a miracle drug and no, I haven't started spanking, using timeouts, or any other punishment.
In fact, all punishments and threats are gone.
Of course I still parent and pay close attention to how my girls are acting.
But where the old Connie would have FLIPPED out at a mess like above,
the new Connie simply turns on the clean up music and has everyone work together to pick up.
I realized that I am setting the tone for the day,
when I am stressed and yell,
the kids get just as frazzled and then the day goes to hell in a handbasket!!
And in the end, it is all small stuff...what is really worth more?
A trusting and loving relationship with my kids,
or a playroom where nothing gets played with because I want it to stay clean?
(Who the heck cares anyhow?!)
So there ya have it...
and I promised my girls out loud that I am no longer yelling,
so I am held accountable by them
and remember that I made a promise.
I am pretty sure everyone is a lot happier that there is no more angry mommy in the house!
(If you want to read more from the genius, this is a good post... and this one... oh what the heck, just read it all!!)