No More Yelling Over Spilled Milk!

 

No, that isn't my playroom... but it could be any given day.

What is the difference from last week until now?

How I react to it.

Remember this post that I wrote about a few days ago? 

How I noticed that I am not being the calm peaceful parent that I want to be 

because I am yelling all the time...

Well I took it to heart and can honestly say that 

I wish everyone would read it and realize what truth there is written there.

Since reading that post by my fellow mommy and homeschooler

my days are 100% smoother,

my girls actually listen to my words instead of tuning me out,

the lying has stopped,

and there is a "niceness" to everyone's demeanor.

No, it isn't a miracle drug and no, I haven't started spanking, using timeouts, or any other punishment.

In fact, all punishments and threats are gone. 

Of course I still parent and pay close attention to how my girls are acting.

But where the old Connie would have FLIPPED out at a mess like above,

the new Connie simply turns on the clean up music and has everyone work together to pick up.

Simple right?! 

I realized that I am setting the tone for the day,

when I am stressed and yell, 

the kids get just as frazzled and then the day goes to hell in a handbasket!!

And in the end, it is all small stuff...what is really worth more?

A trusting and loving relationship with my kids,

or a playroom where nothing gets played with because I want it to stay clean?

(Who the heck cares anyhow?!)

So there ya have it...

and I promised my girls out loud that I am no longer yelling,

so I am held accountable by them

and remember that I made a promise.

I am pretty sure everyone is a lot happier that there is no more angry mommy in the house!

(If you want to read more from the genius, this is a good post... and this one... oh what the heck, just read it all!!)